Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
The classic guide to fully enjoying the pleasures of self-love, full of warmth, intelligence, and informative line drawings—from a renowned sex educator featured on Netflix’s the goop lab with Gwyneth PaltrowConfronting one of our last and most deeply rooted taboos—masturbation—noted sex expert and pro-sex feminist Betty Dodson, Ph.D., takes the shame out of self-love by creating a straightforward and appealing guidebook that reveals masturbation as a satisfying, vital form of sexual expression.Dr. Dodson demonstrates how anyone can learn to make love alone with feelings of guilt or loneliness, and explains why masturbation is sexually and spiritually fulfilling for both men and women. Not only is it the safest sex, but sharing masturbation can also be a sensual treat for couples who want to learn more about each other’s sexual responses.Sex for One demonstrates that self-loving is not just for times in-between lovers or for social misfits. Masturbation is the joyful and ongoing love affair that each of us has with ourselves throughout childhood, adulthood, and the golden years of old age.
Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
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Wardster –
Wished I’d read this book decades ago
A well-written, easily-read book that discusses things I wished I had read three or four decades ago. Looking back at my childhood and years as a young man out on his own, and making his own decisions, I can’t think of any adults I ever discussed the idea of sex with (or relationships with) who struck me, then or now, as having any healthy clue what they were talking about. As a result, one of the biggest fears I had in my youth was that I had almost never seen society’s push for monogamy and marriage work out very well for anyone that I personally knew. In fact, most of the healthiest guy-girl or man-woman relationships I personally knew about and could see the results of, were often the ones that had ended! Seeing how badly way too many well-meaning people had screwed up their lives by making poor partner choices, I began to subconsciously fear I would do the same. At about the time I began to re-think that early life decision, and to begin to feel pressured to go along with society’s push for monogamy and marriage, up came the AIDS crisis. For most of my life, I have let overly judgemental religious types and others with major blind spots or emotional hang-ups tell me it is/was a bad thing to live life as a “non-practicing heterosexual”. Reading this book is working wonders to retro-actively heal various wounds and shames I once suffered for my lack of mindless conformity, in the face of dangers that are all too real, but that many people want to hope won’t happen to them.
FRANCES –
THE IMAGES OF THE FEMALE BODY ARE PRICELESS AND SELF-REVEALING
All I can say is – you must own this book – whether you are a man or a woman.The discoveries you will make about what is “normal” and “female” are priceless.
Frank G. Dunn –
Guaranteed To Make You Laugh Into Your Deepest Pleasure
The world owes Betty Dodson an incredible amount for bringing masturbation out of the shadows and into the light of day, there to be taken seriously as the basic sexual experience and a viable route into personal transcendence. I have rarely read an author who has a more uproariously funny sense of humor. For all the heavy lifting Betty has done, she takes herself lightly. An amazing woman, an amazing book.Frank DunnFounder and DirectorJonathan’s Circle”Men Realizing Wholeness Connecting Sex and Spirit”
Ice sculptor –
A book I’ll recommend to clients
Biased but good book. She provides good reasons for destigmatizing masturbation and including more self-originated sexuality in peoples lives. Author probably has some sex addict issues but they don’t get in the way of the valid and valuable insights she provides. I’m a psychotherapist and will be recommending this book to appropriate clients.
Jen –
Such a great book. I’ve read so many books to help …
Such a great book. I’ve read so many books to help me with my own sexual insecurities and none of them spoke to me like this one! Great book and anyone would benefit from reading this it is an eye opener to our thoughts and our sexual outlook with ourselves. Give this book a try you won’t be disappointed.
Mary Ann Thomas –
Relatively easy and fast read
Sex for One doesn’t say anything I hadn’t intuitively known before, but reading someone else’s experience helped my brain catch up. It’s pretty old skool and uses a lot of binary gender language, but it is also a relatively easy and fast read and helped me sink into some of the deepest knowledges I hold about my own sex world.
territ88 –
I secretly read this book when I was 11 years old, and it really helped me form a healthy sexual identity.
I am a 33 year old American woman who read this book when I was 11 years old. I saw it on my friends moms bookshelf and asked to borrow it, and I’m glad I did. Many parents would probably be alarmed or even offended if they caught their young child reading this book, but at least in my case, it was a windfall of positive information that really helped to shape my sexuality and self esteem, and I still often think about it more than 20 years later. It contains realistic pencil drawings of people engaged in sex acts and masturbation, as well as a whole section devoted to showcasing how very different the shapes and sizes of women’s vulva are. This is valuable information that you don’t get just anywhere, and it’s not sugar-coated, photoshopped, or edited-down, and that’s why it’s so great!I remember growing up with a lot of mixed messages from every direction regarding things like how a woman looked and smelled “down there” and this book very matter-of-factly discusses the range of healthy possibilities, and really tries to reassure the reader that most women don’t look like the slick, shaved, sculpted vulvas and vaginas that you might see in porn — and really that’s okay!This book is honest, humorous, authentic, and invaluable for someone who has been told that masturbation is wrong, sinful, dirty, disgusting, or negative in any way (often for religious reasons). I credit this book to really turning my thinking towards a healthy and positive direction regarding my own body, achieving pleasure alone and with a partner, and that touching yourself is not only okay, but really necessary if you want to really explore your own sexuality and be able to communicate to your partner(s) about what you like and don’t like.I bought another copy so that I can leave it open and accessible on my own bookshelf in the hopes that my own child will find it and learn some solid lessons in body acceptance and sexual know-how.
Paul N Wieland –
Liberating
This book is very well written and and should be part of every high school sexual education session. Liberating for both genders
Cat Christian –
Recommend
A book to encourage self love and exploration – recommend for men and women alike. Betty is not afraid to talk about sex in a frank and honest way, sometimes uncomfortably so but that says more about me than her.